Such a big title , yes it was such a big lesson for me and hence such a big title.
Its quite explicit from the title on what i want to write.
How easy can issues be solved if only we speak out. It could be issues between countries , between two sect , between two communities, between two families and of course between two individuals.
We have seen lots of success stories around the world where much pain had been averted when two leaders put aside their differences and were ready to speak. Its the only way out to solve issues, keeping quite is not an option.
However my blog is about two individuals ,one a male (myself) and a female who also closest pals, its beyond doubt that spelling out the issues and speaking to each other is the way out to solve problems.
I learnt this lesson from my closest friend, who incidentally is much younger to me.
Who said only elders ought to teach young people? I think we can learn things even from Kids.
My relationship with my friend was absolutely at breaking point last week , we had a tiff off on probably the most simple yet the most complicated thing and in friendship , this issue is the pillar. The element on what they call Trust.
I was relentlessly putting pressure on her without understanding her situation and why things were done the way they were. In hindsight , i had made far too many mistakes for my liking.
Things started off badly last weekend and as the week progressed it went from being bad to worse , i had no idea where this was all heading to. It was middle of the week it struck me as a thunderbolt that my relationship was at a breaking point and i was feeling sick.
I was at loss as to what has gone wrong and feeling bitter to even imagine that such a cherished and the most important relationship that i had cared for in the recent years was in the brink of disaster.
Things just didn't look brighter at the start of Thursday , it was all doom and gloom, much to my misery . I did not give up hope , all i hoped was that i get a chance to sort out the issue.
Work pressure didn't help either , as everything piled on me and i had no answer to what fate had to offer and thought life sucks and i thought i was sitting inside a pressure cooker.
I didn't know whom to turn to , i just turned to the obvious messiah of all troubles ' The Almighty'.
I prayed to him and said , save my friendship . I didn't have to wait for long , i did get an answer the same evening in the form of a lesson and the lesson was an email stating the following.
' Hi,
I need to speak to you regarding whatever is going wrong. Lets speak and sort it out.
Can you call me tonight.
Regards
Ur Best friend'
What a relief i had seeing that email as tears rolled in my eyes , i thanked the almighty and also thought , i could have done that but i guess male ego just blurred my thoughts.
I did speak to her the same evening , we spoke at length and spelled out all issues , if there was one. I had been slightly farsighted and anger was a killer as it almost drowned whatever i had earned in this friendship.
I had learnt an important lesson in life , if only i had spoken out and sorted out the issue early on , lots of pain would have been averted nevertheless it was one heck of a ride and i have learnt an important lesson.
This week has been worth living , this lesson will stay with me for a long time.
Now things look brighter , hope i don't make this mistake again.
Take this as an example to all people who follow my blog. Please do speak out and sort out the issues, always understand issues from each others perspective and not only your own.
Have a bright start to the week ahead.
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