When East Meets West!

Most likely people who are reading this blog must have definitely encountered a situation where we are in a midst of a conversation with a fellow colleague or a friend who happens to be from a different country or continent. and most often than not such conversation which normally is restricted to common interests , however ever so often the conversation deflects to items which the other person is unable to relate to due to cultural differences and  up bringing .

I happened to have had a very interesting conversation with a old colleague and a friend of mine in a restaurant last Wednesday. 

At the start, largely the conversation was restricted to usual suspects i.e. Office work, recent trends in employments, projects , market conditions etc etc of course not to miss out current bonus issues . 

After about an hour , my friend asked me an interesting question.

You have worked so hard , i have hardly seen you taking holidays , why don't you take holidays and take your wife out for say six weeks?

Bewildered , Six Weeks? How can i take Six weeks of holiday, what happens to work? 

You are entitled to take the holidays which you have , so why not?

Suddenly eastern ideas kick in . Well , it would be very expensive to go on a six week holiday isn't it?

Am sure it is expensive but its price less , how can you put a value on such a holiday?

Of course i understand , this is priceless , but i have large list of responsibilities.

Well, everyone has responsibilities as if i do not?

True , but going on a six week holiday means i shell out a lot of money , instead of that i can save money  and ensure that i help my parents out . Dad has retired and i can give him and mom some more comforts.

Why would you want to give your mom & dad comfort?

What do you mean , Am their son and in our culture its a moral responsibility

In ours, its more independent and our parents will look after themselves based on their pension funds post retirement .

But wouldn't you want to make sure that they have all the comfort and they are happy?

Of course i do but when i was 18, i left home and fended for myself and my mom & dad were cool with it and they managed their lives and will manage it based on their pensions when they get old by themselves, we meet them probably once in six months .

Scratching my head , i said . Our values are work hard, save , take care of children & take care of your parents. Our entire value system was born out of respecting & taking care of elders when they get old & its the son and daughters responsibility to take care of their parents.

Scratching his head he said , i understand , our values are work hard, spend aka enjoy life , save for rainy dad (pension) , be independent.

We were both looking at each other as if to ask which one is better? Each one had their own opinion.

I concluded by saying, i respected his views and thoughts and he said he completely understood my culture and the process.

I came away thinking, when East Meets West, both of them do understand each other, its just that each of them depart thinking they are better off with the way they are.

Am not entirely sure how much of an influence each of the respective culture has on the other but certainly west seem to have had a lot of influence on eastern youngsters in the recent past, however recent trends show that one of the key value of East i.e. savings seem to be paying off.

That was it for this week, see you next week. Until then take care.